Young () Black man seeking older man

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Getting this out of the way since I want to be transparent to some extent, I’m a y/o black South African just recently graduated but still staying with his folk until I can figure out an exit plan once I find myself a job that pays close to a living wage. While independence is a long-term goal of mine, I still want to meet people and form new friendships. I was raised catholic, entire family is deep in their faith however not being as religious as them (which is practically not at all) has caused some friction between us. While people like to make assumptions as to what they feel could solve any relationship issues I have with them I can assure you that I know what is best for me for now, which is to move out when I can when I’m ready to and create distance between myself and them. Long story short, they’re narcissists, any further attempts at confrontation will just cause more problems as much as people feel the need to want to fix my problems or tell me what’s wrong like it’s new information. I’m set on what direction I want to head in and I’m just hoping you respect that and respect that I want to be discreet as well with my relationships.

Currently my main goal is to work on my body, just workout and exercise and gym anywhere that’s not near or in where I stay. While I do take walks around my area, I feel it might not be safe anymore and being uneasy while trying to exercise makes the experience unenjoyable altogether. I want to manly work on building muscle mass and work towards the body I want to feel comfortable in which isn’t to say I hate being slim or dislike slim people or have any hangups about body types but mainly to express that I have body dysmorphia. I’m short which I don’t care about but I want to do this for me mainly and having someone to workout with or talk about exercise and physical wellness with would be a bonus. Just to at least a goal to keep me busy in my free time along with gaming which I enjoy plenty of.

When it comes to kinks and anything involving sex while I don’t have much experience I get turned on by a lot of things. Love age gap relationships actually which is why I have no hangups on how old someone is so long as they view me as an equal. Vanilla kinks such as kissing, oral, anal, feet, hands, intimacy etc are all good to me. How best I’d describe both my position and role would be that role wise I’m submissive overall but position wise I’m verse, meaning in situations where I’d top I’d still be the submissive partner as dominant bottoms are pretty hot. I’m also pretty kink friendly too, kink including pup play and bondage as well even rubber and kink wear but I draw the line at using phrases like “master” and “slave” where I more prefer paternal phrases like dom / sub or dad / son / boy etc. Nothing that objectifies. Another place I draw a line at is anything including hard drug use, blood, faeces (scat), urine and diapers. I know adult diapers exist but any form of age regression hinting to toddlers makes me uncomfortable. I enjoy plenty of roleplay too, scenarios especially including power dynamic situations such as Teacher / Student or Coach / Player and so on. Never tried any before though.

Even then any form of sexual interaction doesn’t have to be penetrative with me, just bating and jerking off or discussing anything sexual or sexting is enough for me as I don’t want anyone to feel pressured into any sexual interaction all the time every time. Life happens and I respect that they must tend to any responsibilities first before anything else. I’m not one to catch feelings easily but I do value relationships so if we start hitting it off but you communicate to me that you want to take a break from anything sexual and still either want to remain friends or not see one another then I’ll respect that. As adults we should be able to communicate our intentions clearly especially when it comes to anything relating to sex. If we choose to remain friends as well sex is not out of the question but I’m open to discussing a variety of things including politics, anime, movies, series whatever comes to mind. For me it just serves as a welcome distraction from my current life as I gradually work on what I need to do to break free and finally gain my independence. I just hope after reading all this, and if you’re still interested you understand what to expect.